User blog:ObsoleteUser/Why the strife?

Okay - this is to be the LAST blog post about people on chat! I want to get you to see your own problems before you point out others.

Look, when I joined, this wiki was a very close wiki. Everyone worked together and it was all one big happy family. Don't go blaming anyone for it changing! Now it is always "You did this! He did that! This guy should be this!". That is not the point of this wiki.

Treat this wiki as though you would treat the LMBs. Don't say anything you wouldn't there, and don't say or do anything you wouldn't want someone to do to you. You ever heard "Take the speck out of your own eye before you take the log out of others."? Well that should be how you take this.

I am taking a firm stand...I want this to stop! Let's all apologize to eachother, and please, think it over! I want you to be truly sorry. You may not be the one causing the problem, but make sure of that! Make sure you're not the one who is always getting in arguments.

Here's what I do to avoid warring. If I have a problem with someone, or someone has a problem with me, I stay calm. I don't blow up and say "OH YEAH? WELL YOU DID THIS AND YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE!". Revenge is not good here, we need to talk things through calmly. Always make sure you're having fun, if you're not, figure out why. If it is because another user you don't like is on, tell them so. Like this. "Hi ____, I just want you to know, I'm not very happy with you right now because of ________ reason. Let's talk this through so we can be friends again." See? Wouldn't it be sooo much better if everyone resolved their probs with eachother?

Well let's try this. I want a close community again! I don't want to have to be solving relationship problems as an admin all the time. I want to help! To learn! To teach! Please. Let's do this together. This won't work without your help,